Photographer - Terje Sollie
I shared my dream Alice in Wonderland themed wedding ideas last year and we have still yet to plan one thing... so believe me, I know how difficult it can be to get wedding planning.
Here, you’ll find three top wedding conundrums that a lot of brides will face at some point, and what you can do to solve them.
I’m not sure if I can afford the wedding of my dreams
Every bride-to-be has their own idea of the ‘perfect wedding’. But, with the average cost of UK weddings coming in at around £20,000, you might start to think that your dream day is way out of your reach. There’s no denying that planning a wedding is going to cost you money, but it doesn’t necessarily need to leave you out of pocket or require you to give up on the idea of having the day you’ve always wanted.
If you know that your bank balance simply won’t stretch as far as you’d like, you could choose to take out a loan. As long as you borrow an amount that you know you’ll be able to pay back, this could work out as an effective way to afford the wedding you want. Generally speaking, getting a loan is straightforward, and you may be able to access the money quicker than you think. For example, Chill Money can approve loans within a matter of minutes, with the funds being in your bank account the next business day. This is great if you’re keen to get your wedding plans underway as soon as possible.
I don’t know how to tell my guests that kids aren’t invited without offending anyone
If you’d prefer your special day to be an adult-only affair, you’re quite within your rights to have just that. Let’s be honest - many parents of young children would most likely jump at the chance to spend the day or evening without having their little ones in tow, so don’t feel bad when it comes to putting together your guest list.
To avoid any confusion, make sure you’re clear when writing your invitations. Make sure you put down the names of the people you actually want to be there. The absence of a child’s name should plainly spell out that you’re just asking for the parents to attend.
Organising our top table layout is proving difficult and I’m not sure who to include
The truth is, it can be tricky to get your top table seating arrangement just right. Usually, this is where the bride, groom, their respective parents, the chief bridesmaid and best man sit during the wedding breakfast. However, while this might seem like a fairly simple concept, it can be extremely difficult to put into practice - especially if your mum and dad are no longer together, and it can be made even more complicated if either or both of your parents have partners. This won’t be an issue for you if your family get along, but if they don’t always see eye to eye, it can be hard to know how to organise your line-up without hurting anyone’s feelings or causing upset.
If you’re struggling to make sense of your seating plan, there’s no need to panic. There are a number of ways you can get around your top table troubles. For example, you could throw traditions to the side and go for something completely different. Why not mix it up by asking your parents to host their own tables and keep your top table just for you and your partner? Alternatively, you could ask your venue organisers if it’s possible to set up an extra long table to accommodate everyone you want. In this case, you’ll have to just be strategic when it comes to your seating arrangements, making sure you sit certain people away from those they might not get on with.
Planning your wedding should be an exciting time, so don’t let conundrums like this get in the way of you and your partner enjoying the run up to your special day.
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