As a mother I've been guilty of wishing his life away, I've been doing this ever since I first found out I was pregnant, my mother told me to enjoy my pregnancy, I of course didn't listen but she of course, was right. As parents we get so excited by every little milestone, the first being the 12 week scan when you get to see your baby growing inside of you for the first time. After that you crave the next scan and wish the weeks away until that day arrives and you get to see them again. After all the scan you wish the days away until the due date and the actual day your baby is born, you wait so long for that day and in reality it all goes by far too quickly and in all honesty apart from some key sentimental moments I can barely remember what happened for the rest of the day after the excitement of labour, delivery and all those precious first meeting moments were over. After that you await the day you can bring baby home and begin your life properly together as a family, getting into a routine and getting to use all those adorable baby products you stocked up on before the little ones arrival. The come the milestones - the first smile, laugh, rolling over, weaning, sitting up, crawling, standing up, walking, talking... I see countless Facebook and Twitter statuses everyday from parenting who simply 'can't wait' for their child to do these things or proclaiming that they have done, I'm guilty of it myself, it's impossible not to be proud of your child, even for the things which may seem so insignificant to others but which mean the world to you, however, instead of wishing for these things to happen so much I wish I had just relished the time it took for my son to learn these things and just simply enjoy each stage instead of looking ahead to the next.
|Two months old and unrecognisable to the boy I have in my life today.|
Last night I had a good, hard think for myself and have decided to just try and live in the moment, enjoy the toddler stage as much as I can and not rush my son to move onto the next milestone of his life too soon. He doesn't as talk as much as I think he can - he understands everything I say - but I'm not going to pressure him to talk, he has all his life to be chatting to me, asking questions and arguing with me in those joyous teenage years (if he's anything like his father and I were like as teenagers anyway!). I am going to enjoy each little mannerism, mood and movement toddlerhood brings, hopefully doing this will help me to remember this stage more than I do the baby one.
|So grown up and completely different to that small baby I once knew.|
I'm now a stage where I'm thinking about baby number two and when is the right time to try again and add to our family. I know next time I will be more conscious and appreciate pregnancy more, enjoy each moment of having a baby and will not be awaiting those milestones like I did with my son, when they happen they will happen and it's as simple as that. For now I am enjoying my toddler and taking each day as it comes. I am no longer looking ahead to milestones, not just because the next big one is his second birthday and I really don't want to think about that yet, to say I'm emotional is an understand, I feel as though I'm losing hold of my baby, that little spikey, dark haired babe whose early years I wish away too quickly.
Do you also feel that you wished life away with your children?