Monday, January 26, 2015

Things I Want My Son To Know ♥

 Dear Tyler Lee,

It wasn't until I held you in my arms for the first time that I realised just how much of a massive and important new life journey we were about to embark on together. You made me a mother, a role which I am forever proud to hold but also one which was the scariest of my life to comprehend, I didn't know how I - slightly irresponsible, care-free and laid-back Fiona could be responsible for another human being, especially one as little as you were but somehow we made it work and I couldn't imagine my life without you in it, it's safe to say you completed me, you were the missing piece to my puzzle. There are some things I want you to know, things which you must always be aware of because I would never want you to think otherwise or differently about these things. So, my son, this is my letter to you and the things I want you to know most in your life.

That my love for you is unconditional. It doesn't matter what path you take in life, how many fights we have, however many days we spend apart, whether you live on the other side of the world or just next door (the latter I am most definitely hoping for by the way), I will always love you. You will forever be my baby, my first born, the boy who made me a mother and my love for you is never ending. You hold such a special place in my heart, no one compares to you and I don't think anyone ever will. No one in the world means more to me than you do and I hope you remember all of this long after I am gone.

That it doesn't matter what your sexual preference is, I will always love you. It doesn't matter to me whether you're straight, gay, bisexual or any other label they come up with between now and the time you grow up, as long as you're happy then so am I. Please also don't feel under pressure or the need to tell me about what preference you have either, unless you want to of course, it won't change a thing between us, only make me applaud you for being so open with your love life to me. Whatever preference you have it doesn't change you as a person and doesn't make me love you any less, I will love you always.

Don't be afraid to be yourself. Whether you're an extrovert who has a penchant for unique clothes or an introvert who likes nothing better than to hide behind a great book in a library don't be afraid to be who you are. Don't let anyone try to change you either and don't change any aspect of yourself just to fit in with a certain crowd, if they don't like you for who you are then they don't deserve your company.

Always remember where you came from. If you end up as a mega successful man living in a huge mansion in some beautiful, exotic place in the world please always remember where you came from and be thankful for all you've achieved. Remember your humble beginnings on a small island in Ireland and the place who made you who you are.

Surround yourself with positive, fun people. I've always thought that boys made friends easier than girls and I hope that's true for you. Surround yourself with positive, fun people. Steer clear of the back-stabbing, two-faced, wet lettuce types who want nothing but to bring you down. No one needs negative people in their lives, let alone my boy and I want you to have a lot of fun times in your life with fun, happy and like-minded people.

That you reap what you sow. I was told as a teenager that you'll always reap what you sew so, for example, if you study hard for a big exam and try your best you'll come out with fantastic results, if you slack and put in no work you'll fail. This theory is correct for all scenarios in life, if you work hard you can reap the rewards no end and have the satisfaction of knowing that you worked for everything you gained too.

That you are handsome, inside and out. You are the most beautiful boy I know, not just because I'm biased as your mother either, even if you weren't my son I'd fawn over your beautiful golden curls, your big, deep blue eyes and your tiny, perfect little nose... okay I'll stop now, I don't want to be one of those embarrassing mothers (although I totally am!). You not only have beauty on the outside but you have a beautiful soul too. You're friendly, caring, loving and out-going, you're a joy to be around, so please never change from your handsome self.

The value of money and saving. I wish this was a life lesson I learnt at an early age so this is one I really want you to embrace - know the value of money and how to save. Your father is fabulous at saving, money burns a hole in my pocket as soon as I get it so hopefully you'll take after your father more in this case. I want you to know how great saving is, how amazing it feels to have money for all the things you want to do in life and how great it feels being able to buy the things you want without having to beg, borrow or steal (don't ever steal by the way!).

Knowledge is the most powerful weapon you can have. I will try to educate you in your early years as best I can but please carry on educating yourself throughout your life. Knowledge is the most powerful thing you can have in life, you can truly inspire, win over and help people with your knowledge. It will be your best asset in life if you learn to nurture it and explore the wealth of knowledge this world has to offer you.

You will make mistakes in life and that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes in life, it's part of human nature, It's how we learn and grow and although these mistakes may seem like the worst thing in the world at the time you will get over them and be a stronger person at the end of them all. I will try my very best to be there for you through these mistakes, guide you and help you in any way I can, you just need to confide in me and let me be there for you.

Never regret anything. This links to the above piece about mistakes, to live with regret is not to live at all and I know this from my own personal experience. I never want you to feel regret, it's the worst feeling in the world. I want you to look at things positively and think if those things never happened then you wouldn't have the life you have now. Putting a positive spin on things really makes a huge difference to how you live your life.

To always remember the happy times and smile. A time will one day come when your father and I may no longer be here, when that time comes I don't want you to be sad, I want you to smile and remember all the happy times we had and all our adventures - you'll have a million pictures to look back on so you have no excuse not to really! I want you to laugh when you think of all the silly things we did, laughing is so much better than crying and you can be guaranteed that wherever I am up in Heaven I'll be looking down on you. You are forever in my heart and soul.

That I am here for you, always. It doesn't matter what age you are, whatever you need to talk about, whatever time of the day it is, I am here for you, always. All you have to do is come to me, get in contact with me however you can, even if it's just for a chat, even if it's just so you can hear someone tell you how proud they are of you, I will always be here. Never forget that.

My darling boy, these are the things I want you to know. I have no doubt that there will be other lessons and words of wisdom I shall pass on to you along the way, but right now, three weeks before your second birthday, these are the things I really want you to know in life. I hope you'll remember my words and embrace them throughout your life. I'll have to print out this page and stick it in your scrapbook so you can read my words whenever you want, whenever you need to reflect and need a bit of guidance and reassurance that everything will be okay. Mama knows best and is always right, I learnt that from your Nana.

I love you LeeLee, always remember that and never change.




  1. :) "Mama knows best and is always right" so cute*

  2. This was beautiful! Defiatley things I would love for my sons to know as well. Especially for them to be themselves. I don't want them to ever feel that they can't be who they are, and be afraid of being judge

    1. Thank you Bree. I want the same for my son, a judgement free life.

  3. Lovely post to a young boy for when he grows up to be a man.

  4. Love the last paragraph! Simply beautiful :) You're a really great mum, and I'm sure Tyler feels it as well :)

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words Irene :)

  5. Beautiful post, things that every good mum would wish for her children to know. :)

  6. This is so heart touching! Had a few tears in my eyes while reading this.

    1. Awh sorry for the tears Inge, thank you for reading x

  7. You've just made my cry. So beautiful.. <3

    1. Sorry for making you cry Imenka. Thank you so much for reading.

  8. gorgeous photo and words to cherish

  9. That is so, so beautiful.....Our boys are the same age too, Harry will be two on Feb 21st, he's my last baby and growing up far too fast for me!


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