Do Babies Choose Their Parents? ♥

Before I had even found out I was pregnant for the second time I was having a bit of a 'stumble upon' night on the net searching random things, one particular night my search was related to angels and spirituality - subjects which I am quite interested in and I came across an article which was debating whether or not babies, when they are spirits, choose which parents they go to in order to give those parents an experience or teach them a lesson which they need to know. 

There were comments from parents who stated some strange things their children had said to them, as if they were here before, things only dead relatives such as grandparents should know and some children had even stated to their parents - "Before I came to meet you I saw you and choose you to be my mummy/daddy". Now this is the internet and people can dramatise, etc. for shock factor but I felt some sort of credibility from these comments. 

For awhile now my eldest has demonstrated some things to me which are explainable, things which he shouldn't know but does. Awhile back a picture of my grandfather appeared underneath our couch, I have no idea how it got there but my son found it and was able to tell me it was "grandad". This was shocking enough at the time to me, but since he's turned three he's also been able to tell me that the man in the photo is called Michael, something which I, nor anyone else has ever told him.

After my second baby was born my eldest also started saying that there was a man in his room at night, and at first he was scared but now he knows he a nice man. That he tells him to "shhh and go to sleep" and that this man is Michael. I know three year olds have a very active imagination but this seems too much to be a complete fairy story about a man who died long before my son was born. It seems that my boy knows a lot more about us all than I had ever expected...
 

When I had my son I always got the impression that he was here before, in fact I tell people this a lot. People have pointed out that he can be quite serious, thoughtful and is like a little philosopher, to me he has an old fashioned presence and if I'm honest I would love it if he had picked myself and Jacek to be his parents and to teach us something in life. 

I imagine him as being a baby spirit in a big white room and seeing all the parents waiting for a beautiful baby but picking his dad and I. It's such a special thing to think that this wonderful child chose us. He's already taught me so much already, mainly the art of patience as before I had him I was like a firecracker, but he's amazing, my little angel man as I affectionately call him.

After I suffered my miscarriage in 2014, the day after my eldest sons first birthday, my friend and I were having a conversation, she also loves all things spiritual and the topic of babies choosing their parents came up, luckily she didn't look at me like I had two heads and knew exactly what I was talking about. The words she said to me that night have been so comforting to me and through the low times I've had since all this happened, like right now, hence why I'm writing this post, I just have to get my thoughts written down, her words have been nothing but a comfort to me. 

In short my friend told me that "my baby knew it couldn't stay with me for long but choose me anyway to be close to me and be loved by me because that baby knew that even after it had left me it would continue to be loved completely and what more could a baby want?"

This words have meant so much to me and have impacted on me so much. In fact as I type this I'm getting quite teary eyed, I just find the whole concept quite beautiful and so comforting, a silver lining to the terrible, heartbreaking experience that is losing a child. 

I wanted to share these words in the hope that other people who have lost their children could also maybe find some comfort in this idea. I know it has been a saviour for me and when I get down I try to see the light and love my unborn baby wanted to bring to me.

Ultimately I do believe that babies choose their parents. I always love to believe in the spiritual side of things, I'm not really one for needing concrete evidence to believe in something and feel hope. 

I do hope that we will meet our unborn baby one day and will be able to thank them for what they have taught us even though they were only with us for such a short time. They personally have taught me to appreciate every moment I have with their big brother, to relish and cherish each second we have together, be patient and to never give up hope or be sad at actions of people who don't really matter. 

*Update* I have since had my beautiful rainbow baby, Beau, who has reconfirmed my belief in the idea that babies choose my parents. Since the moment I found out I was expecting him I felt an overwhelming feeling of happiness and calm, things which I greatly needed in my life at the time.

I strongly believed that my baby would be a happy little soul and I'm delighted to say that my believe became a reality as he is the most joyous, smiley and placid little thing I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. He has brought us all some much needed joy and his beautiful, smiling face reminds me that there's good in everyday - a lesson I was much in need of learning.

To my beautiful, wonderful children and all the lessons they have taught me, thank you  ♥

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