Why you no like sleep no more?
I was thankfully blessed with a child who loves his sleep just as much as I do. He's sleep through the night ever since he was six months old and I can't even begin to tell you how incredibly grateful I am for that. I'm someone who cannot function without at least eight hours sleep and even after that I could still sleep some more. Of course, the full nights sleep always came with an early morning but I could live with that, early start more productivity and all that jazz. As of late though my little angel who loved getting into his cot for his naps and at bedtime has been fighting his sleep, screaming and jumping up and down as soon as I put him in his cot. Where he would have giggled and looked forward to the though of bedtime before he now runs away at the mention of the words 'nap' or 'sleepy sleepy'. I honestly don't know what has happened and I'm beginning to despair at the lack of a nap to break up the day and the thought of trying to get him into his cot once bedtime arrives.
Nothing has changed in his routine, although of the festive period his daily nap was interrupted or sometimes he didn't get it at all but bedtime was always the same, 7 o'clock on the dot after a bath and story time. I toyed with the idea of keeping him up later but I really don't think 7 o' clock is an unreasonable bed time for a 22 month old. Then I began to think, maybe I am being unreasonable. Can I really expect my boy to have a nap if he doesn't want to just because I think he needs to have this as part of his routine, or rather do I need it - do I need that break during the day, that 'me' time... maybe I'm being selfish (I most certainly am). My son has been very kind to me with his love of sleep really since he was born, I didn't have that newborn stage of him waking up a lot during the night, it was always two times during the night max for the first six weeks and he always went straight back to sleep, maybe now it's time to have that awkward sleeping stage... I have to admit though, I could have coped with a newborn, having a screaming, kicking, throwing things toddler to contend with is much harder. My forces aren't strong enough to overcome his thundering screams, plus the super thin walls don't help, my poor neighbour... There comes a time when no amount of cuddles, kisses, reassurance, blankies, stories or lullabies won't work, in fact, I think they're an insult to my anti-sleep toddler, I probably disgust him at these times when I am almost pleading with him to sleep... he knows what he's doing.
I hate battling with him, he's such a sweetheart and I hate to see him cry. I'm such a wimp when it comes to any sort of discipline or making him do things which he doesn't want to do, I give up so easily but with bedtime I just can't. I'm a creature of routine and I need him to be with me on this - easier said then done when he doesn't understand of course. I'm happy for him to give up his nap, (can you see I'm doing some negotiating here?) as long as bedtime isn't a struggle... wishful thinking on my part I'm sure, if we're negotiating he's going to come out with the better deal, everytime, I really need to put my foot down.
Has anyone else had this with their toddlers? Is it a thing? (If it is it's a very crappy thing!) This parenting lark seems to get harder and harder with each stage, give me the newborn stage again anyday. We've now both been up since 5.30, he's had his breakfast, watched some cartoons and is sitting on my lap limp, sleepy and tired, I know though if I put him upstairs it's going to be another battle, one which he'll win for sure. Why won't he sleep? What can I do? Help! My toddler won't sleep and I don't drink coffee!