Saturday, September 20, 2014

Dear Everyone Who Has A Problem With How I Raise My Son ♥

A boy in a rainbow onesie baby yoga-ing next to a rainbow room sign?! Bad mother alert!
For the past few weeks now I've become increasingly aware that some people have a problem with how I raise my son so I've decided to address their opinions and worries because I've stayed silent long enough on the issue. I've encountered little gems ignorance's from a lot of people over the past few months and it has actually blown my mind that people actually think this way. Let me share some of these delights of humanity with you.

On the topic of me getting my son a kitchen and all the accessories to go with it for Christmas - "Cooking! Are you trying to make him queer?" I'm beginning with this statement as I was actually astounded by the fact that 1. people in the 21st century still think cooking is just for girls, 2. that the word 'queer' was used and 3. that my son playing with a toy would make him gay. Let me address these points, 1. I believe everyone needs to know how to cook. I want to teach my son vital life skills from a young age. Why on Earth would I want him to rely on a woman just to get a decent meal everyday? Also, most of the worlds best bakers and chefs are men and they are some of the 'manliest' men I know, namely Gordon Ramsay and Paul Hollywood, cooking and baking is most definitely not just for girls. 2. I don't think ANYONE should use the word 'queer' to refer to a gay person, there is nothing queer about it, it's simply a sexual preference. 3. If my son playing pretend kitchen games is going to make him gay then so be it, he enjoys role playing things he sees adults doing around him, loves pretending to make his dinner on his toy kitchen and if he does happen to be gay then that's alright with me, I'll love him just as much as I do now.

On the topic of his hair - "Look at the state of his hair! When are you going to get it cut?" I'm so sorry my 19 month old sons hair offends you and that it doesn't look perfect everyday. He has naturally curly hair, he's going to wake up with a bed head and the child moves faster than Sonic the Hedgehog so it's not always possible to spray conditioning spray into it to get the perfect curls everyone so desires. Life isn't perfect, just so you know like. Also he is my child, if I want his hair to be long enough to put in a ponytail and cut it off in some sort of weird hair release ceremony at the end of it all then that's my business! (FYI I am most certainly not planning this but we're not cutting it until he's three, unless it needs a cut before this).

If you think this will my make my son gay then you're a moron, it makes him a caring human being.
On the topic of him getting a buggy for his baby doll (who is a boy doll, just so you know) - "I don't want him growing up to be gay". I seriously cannot get over the stupidity in statements like this and what bothers me most is that they are coming from the people I like most in the world. Getting a buggy for my son will not make him gay. My son loves putting his cuddly toys on top of his walker toys and taking them for a walk, just like his father and I do with him. He also gives them his comforters to make them feel loved, this does not scare me, in fact, I think it's the sweetest thing in the world. I wanted to get him a buggy to enhance the whole role-playing experience for him, I guarantee you that this will not have a negative effect on him, if anything it will prepare him for being a big brother or a father one day, roles in life which I think he'll be amazing at due to his affectionate nature.

Don't be jealous just because you're not as fashionable as my kid is.
Statements on the clothes I dress him in - "Rainbows?! They're for girls!", "Leggings?! They're for girls!", "Is he a boy or a girl?". I didn't know until I had a child that some elements of this world were only for females, it was never pointed out in my education. I thought they were a free for all. Leggings are comfy for my very active toddler who has the waist of a super model, jeans are too big for him and fall down inhibiting his crawling, running, sprinting, rolling... leggings stay up and come in the funkiest prints I have ever seen. Dressing him in these things isn't going to scar him for life, he won't even remember what he wore. Tyler Lee is most definitely a boy, thanks for asking.

On choosing toys for Christmas - "Why don't you get him some boys toys, like a farm or some cars?" My son has an abundance of farmyard toys and cars, he's not particularly interested in them at the moment, he's 19 months old and likes to copy what adults are doing around him. Toys are just toys, they should not come with a gender label, my son can play with whatever he wants. I've addressed this issue before in my 'Gender Stereotypes' post which was written way back when my son was eleven months old, as you can see this is an ongoing issue. The dividing of things into girl and boys is decided by adults not children. Leave children alone, let them discover and play the way they want.

More rainbows?! Surely not. Does this look like the face of a child who cares about such trivial things in life? No.
 On my parenting style - "You're a hippy mother", "You can't be friends with your children". Yes, yes I am a hippy, a hippy and proud. I've never hid this from anyone, sorry that you're only discovering this now, I would have thought the multi-coloured hair and general whimsy that I have would have given it away sooner. I don't believe in slapping my child, I don't believe in shouting at him all the time, I let him do what he wants more than I probably should and I have no problem with letting him get dirty and discovering the world, that's just how I am. I would rather be friends with my child than be a mother he was too afraid to come to if he ever had a problem. I tell my child I love him ten thousand times a day because I never want him to find it awkward to hear me say I love him or for him to say it to me. If this offends you then you really do need help, or a hug.

I am sick to death of adults making assumptions about how my son will be due to how I'm raising him. My son doesn't care if something is pink or blue (at least not at this age anyway), he doesn't even know what pink or blue are. These ideals in life are all instilled into children by adults and I'm sorry but I don't conform to them, I go against the grain and am not a sheep. I believe that my child should experience every aspect of the world whether it be playing with dolls, playing pretend, wearing rainbows... if he likes it or wants to do these things then what's the problem. By dressing him gender neutrally, letting toys just be toys and from being an open, loving mother I am teaching him from the start of his life that he can be whatever he wants to be in life and shouldn't shy away from what he desires just to conform to society. I would rather he was a real person and living his life the way he wants to rather than being fake and unhappy. I'm so sorry that that offends people, I'm not sorry for pointing out the fact that they need to get a life and not concern themselves with my son or our business. What makes me even more mad is the fact that I began to doubt myself as a mother, wondering was I doing something wrong and hindering my son in any way. Having contemplated this for a few days I realise I'm not the one at fault, it's the people who have been making these narrow-minded comments. Ultimately, there is only one person who is responsible for my son and that is me, his mother. I am the only one who carried him for forty weeks, laboured for thirty-one hours and then gave birth to him, have been with him everyday since he was born and who knows every single thing about him. I want him to have a CHILDhood, not worry about what adults think he should be like based on his gender.

Do not comment on how I raise my son, I didn't ask your opinion in the first place. Do not make idiotic remarks about how he could turn out based on how I'm raising him, they are the dumbest things I have ever heard.


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    \outl0\strokewidth0 \strokec2 I'm beyond speechless after reading this, I've had to read it twice!! To the bunch of ignorant idiots that made Fiona feel that she had to write this post: maybe concentrate on your own "issues"! Fi hold your head high and continue parenting that handsome boy the way you are, he will no doubt be a diverse and open minded child and adult,you should be very proud x

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  2. *high five* I got the same when I got my son a buggy and baby doll you will turn him queer etc. The fact that gay people don't have a choice its actually inside them. To think on that level like a toy will turn them its ridulious that people still think that in 2014! I hear it all the time still you don't play with dolls its for girls, people need ti grow up and look around. Does it matter what they wear, how they look & what they play with as long they are happy and loved...

    Tyler-Lee is gorgeous btw!

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  3. *applauds*

    He rocks his rainbows.

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  4. let your children be who they want to be, don't be stereotypical , my son son had a play kitchen and a pink (yes pink because at the time that was the only colour available!! ) buggy for his soft toys, he is now 11 years old and i am often told that he is a credit to me as he is caring and would do anything for anyone,i would rather him be this than some kids i know. x

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  5. Fair play to you for writing this!! So what to EVERYTHING you’ve addressed, I hate how people automatically think that gender means one thing. Millie loves playing with cars at the moment, is that wrong? I dress her in blue quite a lot, in joggers and also buy things from the boys section because I like them. Is that wrong? i hope everyone that has commented reads this post and feels guilty!

    xx

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  6. My son is three and a half and has long blonde hair. He's happy, wonderful company and joyously free of people's prejudices, however innocently applied. Even the postman still refers to him as 'her' despite me always saying ' say hello Arthur'.
    Your son is beautiful and thriving and if playing with a kitchen and putting toys in a buggy fills his little world with happiness then who gives a rat's arse what others think! X

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  7. Go Fiona!! Baffles me the comments like you have experienced - well done for having for say!!! xxx

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  8. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE this post Fiona. I literally could've written this. I get called a 'hippy mama' too but I actually take that as a compliment, our children deserve to be themselves, not what society think they should be. Well written, xxxxx

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  9. Some people are beyond belief. You are doing all the right things and Tyler Lee will be a wonderful human being.

    My friend's 5yo son has a purple bike with flowers on it. (He inherited it from his big brother, incidentally, who also loved it.) She has trained him to shout "Don't be a tool of the patriarchy!" to anyone who tries to tell him it's a "girl's bike".

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  10. It is so annoying the way that people (strangers, friends and relatives) feel like they can comment on our parenting styles and even silly things like the way our children look and the toys they play with. I always get grief about my son's hair (apparently toddler boys should have short hair, and my in-laws even took him for a haircut one day while they were babysitting--grrrr). You just keep doing what you're doing! xx

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  11. Hi Fiona, I came across your blog recently and have enjoyed reading. Loved this post and agree with you one hundred percent....I get similar reactions to my daughter dressing in jeans and Thomas the tank engine jumpers and playing with cars. And will doubtless get attitude about my son's clothes etc once he passes the current newborn stage. It's horrifying that people really hold opinions like this...I have developed an excellent f--k you expression to assume whenever anyone comes out with them around me. You seem like a wonderful mama so please ignore any negativity, With hugs, Rachael.

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  12. My 4 year old son loves playing with pretend food and thinks his toy trolly is fab. Does mean he acts "like a girl", in fact anyone who has met him will tell you he's a proper "boys boy". Kids shouldn't be limited to what they can play with. I want to prepare all 3 of my boys for later life so they can be independent. Their father, for example, has no clue how to cook, clean or wash clothes without my guidance...and he was just raised on "boys toys" lol!

    Your little boy is gorgeous. Don't listen to any of these ignorant sods x

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  13. I wrote a similar post not so long ago. Completely agree with you!
    http://www.maxandmummy.co.uk/2014/03/yes-my-son-wears-tutu.html

    Laura x

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  14. Oh I hate people that think like this. I do so much of the above - planning on getting my two boys a kitchen for xmas, leggings are the best because jeans look uncomfy, they already own a pushchair. The gay comment I have actually heard myself before when people talk about boys playing with pushchairs. Which really is stupid when you think that you see men pushing their kids round everyday and guess what most of them had to have a relationship with a woman to have that baby. Comments like that aren't needed.

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  15. Here here !! I second all this as the mam of a long red haired BOY who you wouldn't believe the comments he has received, form those narrowed mined parents you speak of. He also has a varied toy box and wardrobe and to stir it all a hippy dippy red haired mammy! Individuality is a thing to encourage not laugh or discourage, I turtle believe our kids will be the polite well rounded kids we want them to be and hers is where I'll stop my comment as Fiona has said it all . . . X x

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  16. Fiona! This is YOUR blog, you have the right to delete any comments YOU deem to be stupid/defamatory/stupid or "queer". Is your son a happy little boy who is hitting his developmental Milestones? I recon he is, so I wouldn't bother giving the trolls the time of day.

    Don't let the A-Holes get you down, delete the comments. They are not worth your precious time, time that you could be spending with your little man, keeping him as happy as he is!

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  17. Brilliantly written and very powerful piece! Tyler is an absolute dote of a child and I have no doubt he will grow up to be a very loving and gentle man - something that is sorely needed in this world. Well done for taking the begrudgers on x

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  18. OMG blue is only for boys?! I must go and burn all my blue jeans, dresses, underwear etc. right away. REALLY!! Some people need to get a f*%king grip! Tyler Lee is beautiful and by the sounds of how you are raising him will be an absolute gentleman when he is older. I could rant all night but I fear I might start a written war on your page so I'll leave it there xx p.s. You're doing a wonderful job, please dont doubt yourself again :) xx

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  19. Fantastic! And thank you for addressing all the narrow minded, busy bodies who feel the need to share their unwanted opinions. For all the reasons you have stated, our son is getting a kitchen for his birthday and we are also not cutting his beautiful baby curls!

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  20. Wow words fail me... How can any such individual even have views like that... Clearly no thought went into any aspect at all, how offensive and good for you standing up for yourself. I agree with everything you have said xx

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  21. Great post Fiona! I'm not sure when it became everyone else's business how parents decide to raise their children? As long as they're happy and healthy then why the hell does it matter?! And the "you'll turn him gay" thing drives me mad - even if he is gay, he'll be a lovely person which is obviously more than those people have going for them..
    Keep doing what you're doing, you're doing a great job. Oh, and I love his curls ❤

    Jess xo
    http://just-jesss.blogspot.co.uk

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  22. He is smiling in all your pictures and that's all that counts. X

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  23. Urgh, arseholes. I don't get too many comments but have have people say things about my son when he is playing with the dolls and prams at toddler group. One woman said "ooh I think he is trying to tell you something hahaha." I replied, "oh I know, maybe he will grow up to be a Dad!" Idiots xx

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  24. What an amazing post!! Shocked at what I'm reading! Can't believe there are so many idiotic people in this world who think they can pass judgment on CHILDREN and parenting!? Most of these people won't even be parents themselves. I've just got my son a kitchen for his 2nd birthday and he absolutely loves it. Why would I deprive him of that? Your son looks so happy and content, you're doing a great job. Don't let these FREAKS put you down xx

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  25. People are such morons, he looks healthy and happy so what else really matters? I actually think his hair is adorable :)

    India / Touchscreens & Beautyqueens

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  26. why would cooking make him gay? the majority of the world's best chefs are men... and most of them aren't gay - like Gordon Ramsay! I mean in all honesty it doesn't matter what you put them in, they generally don't care.

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  27. After reading this post I now want to follow you and your blog because you are speaking my mind. I have a 4 1/2 year old son that people seem to enjoy commenting on. My son has a kitchen equipped with food, utensils, cupcake dishtowels and the works. He also has My Little Pony stuffed animals from Build a Bear. Oh and I even paint his toenails. Yup I do. I do not believe in gender roles or stereotypes or any of that bs. I believe in letting a child learn, love and enjoy his or her time as a child rather than shoving any kind of nonsense crap down their throat. I applaud you for speaking your mind about these narrow minded morons that have no role in your childs life. There is enough sadness in this world that needs to be fixed without people spewing nasty comments onto a child and creating an even larger circle of stupidity. Never let anyone dictate how you raise your own child and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a hippy :D

    ♥ Kimberly
    www.twinklingtrees.com

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  28. I love this post!! I could of written this my son loves leggings, has unruly curly hair and is a big fan of dolls! I have had a few comments like you have! I may print this off and hand it to them!! Your son is So cute!! X

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  29. I am absolutely shocked and stunned that you felt you had to write such a post... How can people be so cutting and so uneducated with their remarks??? Well done you for rising above it and shouting back at them, I personally think you should have named and shamed. No one has the right to dictate how you raise your child. xx

    http://www.itsalwaysdarkestbeforethedawn1.blogspot.co.uk

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  30. I cannot actually believe that some people make those stupid and ignorant comments. Your boy's hair is lovely, having naturally curly hair myself, I know how hard it is to 'manage' curly hair. George ran around in leggings all the time, nothing more comfortable for little boys and girls to play in. I hate jeans, I hardly wear them myself and I think they are just perfect. About the comments of your son turning gay... Don't get me started.

    Don't listen to the people, some are just sad and mean.

    German Girl in London

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  31. I'd quite like to comment on how you raise your son - I'd like to say well done :)

    He's a beautiful, happy little boy and I know it's wrong to put that above gender stereotypes and toddler fashion but I must be a bit of a hippy too ;) (Only a bit, my pretty coloured hair went away)

    My son loves his kitchen and his buggy - He's loved them since he was a similar as your boy. He still loves them now, as well as guns (However much I try to persuade him not to), lego, cuddly toys, puzzles, books, figures, his toy market, computer games, running, jumping and generally being a 4-yo boy who isn't stuck in a box when it comes to what he is and isn't allowed to like.

    He's also been called a girl Countless times due to his beautiful curly hair... which is beginning to go straight which is making me want to cry.

    I'd say keep doing what you're doing but it's quite clear you'd already planned on it ;) Don't let them get you down, they aren't worth it

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  32. Were these comments on your blog? That is shocking and well done for having your say x

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  33. It's sad, and shameful, when a toddler is the target of homophobic slurs, it really is.

    I work in retail and it's heartbreaking when you see a young child ask for a toy and then get told "No, that's for boys - lets go look at the dolls," or something similar. I really hate how we have 'boys' and 'girls' toys. It's just not right. My five year old cousin had nail polish on his nails when I saw him in the summer. I complimented them and he looked happy. Nothing wrong with that!

    Also, your son's curls are gorgeous. I wouldn't want to cut them off either! So what if his hair looks a little unruly at times - does it really matter?

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  34. Best blog post I think I have ever read. I'm not a parent, but I do have friends and family members who have young children and I love being a part of their lives and also watching how differently each bring up their little one.

    None of them are doing it the same, but none of them are doing it wrong. Parenting can be done so differently and my God I cannot believe that some people are still contesting that certain toys will affect your child's sexuality. And, as a little extra, why would it even matter if he was gay?

    Kids like what they like, and if your little boy wants a kitchen set or a buggy for his baby doll then he should have one! You don't see a grown man in a real kitchen, or pushing a baby in a pram and announce that he must be gay! In fact, you'd probably say they were being a wonderful partner/husband/father/whatever, but god forbid a baby boy plays with a plastic cooker, pans and a pretend fried egg!

    Sometimes, the narrow mindedness of this world baffles me. As long as your boy has a smile on his face that's all that matters.

    Wishing you and your boy the absolute best for the future. Keep being an amazing mummy and keep his pretty curly hair, he's so bonny.

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  35. What's ridiculous is that people apply these rules to boys, but not to girls. I have two girls that are mad crazy about dinosaurs, cars, knights and dragons. Nobody bats an eyelid at that. Nobody suggests that playing with 'boy' toys will make them gay. So why would playing with 'girl' toys make a boy gay? Ridiculous and one-sided. Toys are toys. They are gender neutral. Just ignore them and know that you are raising a beautiful, well-rounded child. Gender irrelevant.

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  36. Great post- I've always had comments about my sons hair! I don't understand why others feel the need to comment on a child's hair cut! I also struggle to understand why anyone would see a play kitchen as a girls toy! As for boys playing with dolls- what's the worse that can happen? They grow up to be a dad?! Toys are just toys and I don't care if my daughter's playing with cars and my sons are racing around with the toy pushchairs.
    Welldone for addressing the comments! Just ignore-you know what's best for you child
    Anneka x

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  37. Great post, isn't it SO annoying when people make ridiculous comments or try and offer "advice" on how we bring up our children. It's obvious your son is soooooo loved and I can just tell you're a fab mum, don't listen to anyone try and tell you otherwise xxx

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  38. My sons have played with all the above and my now 6 year old even had a dolls house, when he was being tested for autism these are the toys they used to test his imagination and play skills, they even gave him a baby doll and told him she was hungry what should he do, now he hadn't a clue and he was still diagnosed with autism but I bought a few of these toys after diagnosis and used these toys to improve his imagination and I think he is great now, how else do they learn role play? none of my boys ever owned a toy gun I would rather toy kitchens, play food and trolleys, cash registers, dolls house, dolls any day. don't mind ignorance of other people

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  39. My kids grew up in a home filled with all sorts of toys and I never said which were for my daughter or son. Yes I may have bought slightly more gender centric ones at times but my daughter loves Dr Who and my son played with dolls and the kitchen. I love things like Playmobil, Brio trains and Lego that are for any child.

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  40. I agree with all of what you said more or less but I'm curious about the no hair cutting until he is 3... is there any thought or reason behind this or is it just what you want to do? I have a toddler girl who's hair is taking forever to grow, I have trimmed it twice due to the ends being quite destroyed by the sun, but it still not long enough for a bob!

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  41. It sounds like you're doing an awesome job! :)

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  42. I'm beyond words to after reading this post:::: oh my days!!!! My 9 year old son chose a hello kitty bed for our new kitten does that make him gay to? It's an awful world where people judge: your son is lush :) tell them to xxxx off xxx

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  43. I love the fact that you're speaking your mind about issues like these. Having a son too, I've often come across some negativity in the way I'm raising my son, especially because I'm a single parent. When his "father" used to see him, he would give out to me for the way I dressed him, saying that he looked "gay". What a lovely thing to say about your six month old son. And I've often ask people ask if he's a boy or a girl because his hair is longer than what is ~normal~ for a boy. Nothing about the fact he's started to choose his own clothes in the mornings now, and most definitely dresses in tougher looking clothes than your average girl.


    Good on you for sticking to your guns though, you're doing an awesome job of being Tyler Lee's mama and no one should belittle or question the way you choose to raise him. I figure that once a child is happy and healthy, no one should be able to pass judgement. Keep up the good work!

    Collette
    inkedhibiscus.blogpsot.ie
    xo

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  44. Wow! First of all, I would be more upset if you cut his hair off! Those curls are beautiful. To those that wonder if he is a girl or a boy- they are probably the same idiots who think my head to toe pink girl is a boy (altho I suppose boys can wear pink but still annoys me). About the pram- of course he would want to mimic his daddy! Maybe they are married to cavemen who don't help push their prams! As for the gay (queer) comments, well my daughter will be gay too then cos she likes playing with 'boy' toys. What idiots. Well done for writing this but quite frankly those fools shouldn't even be answered. Let them live in their ignorant little world. They will be worse off. ps I love the leggings xx

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  45. People need to get a grip on a) gender stereotypes, b) their rudeness, c) what's okay and what's not okay to judge people on, d) what's okay and what's not okay to tell people how to do, and e) their misogyny and homophobia. And transmisogyny, because a lot of it is rooted in a fear that someone may be a different gender than the sex they were born in. Which I wouldn't judge a parent for being scared of, because holy god, the world is absolutely terrible to trans* people. But it's absolutely ridiculous coming from other people.

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  46. I LOVE his hair. There's a little boy in Junior Infants at my son's school who has shoulder length blonde curls and it is just fabulous, imagine having the same short haircut as everyone else when you could have golden curls. No contest! Unfortunately, Fiona - there are people out there who feel they have the right to comment on everything. I've been asked if Edward was a girl and when I said no, I got "why is he wearing purple?" - is purple not okay now either??!! This whole "gay" thing really gets to me - firstly that it's used as a derogatory term, secondly that it's a bad thing. I have three boys, if one happens to prefer men, that's fine. My eldest had a handbag for a year when he was little - he just liked to carry toys around in it!! I get the stupidest comments about the boys - "are they twins? god help you" - god help me for having two healthy little boys?!! "you've your hands full" - Yes, yes I have, and I love it. Thanks. "twins? You're f*cked" - thanks.... you're doing great Fiona and Tyler is a dote, leggings and rainbows and kitchens and all.

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  47. Great post! I have a son and a daughter and they each play with each others toys. My son loves toy kitchens and cooking and I encourage him to help me cook and bake and he loves it. My daughter loves playing with cars.
    As long as Tyler and you are happy that is all that matters.
    I love those slugs and snails tights I wish I`d had some for my son when he was a toddler.
    As for the rainbows - they are a beautiful part of nature. They teach colours and look so cheerful too.
    Dx

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  48. My son is 12 and has mad shoulder length wavy hair which was ringlet curls until he was 4 years old. He had a pushchair with a teddy, kitchen, toolbox and vacuum cleaner. Over the years he collected 30 build a bears, would wear anything in any colour.he is proud of his mad hair even though he has been mistaking for a girl lots of times probably because he has very pretty features. How can people judge over buying a kitchen? We used to play supermarkets with a till, libraries with our books and with a post office toy as well as power rangers. What about at nursery where children can access any type of role play toy. I used to work in a school and the boys loved playing in the role play cafe and kitchen much more than the girls. Great post by the way, just ignore those narrow minded people who have not realised that as long as our children are happy and healthy that is the main thing

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  49. So glad you have written this post. It all needed to be said. Far too much ignorance in this world. I am currently reviewing pink/purple Mega Bloks with my Aaron and he LOVES them - Pony Palace and Build a Bakery. I am so glad he hasn't been totally socially conditioned..... yet. He's 4 and 3 months.
    Liska @NewMumOnline
    x

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  50. I can understand that people comment about him playing with girls' toys - not WHY they do, but that they do, because sadly people are still like that with sexuality even in this day and age.

    But I can't fathom why anyone would have a problem with his hair. Even though it's none of their business if it was, it just isn't long or messy. It's messier than straight hair, but that's because it's curly. I think that those commenting on it are jealous that their kids don't have hair like it.

    Back on the toys/clothes/OMGhewillbegay thing, my brother had a toy pram - a big, old-fashioned pram and a doll which he played with. He's 29 now, married (to a woman) and trying for a real baby. Who would have thought it?
    Playing with girls' toys will not make a boy gay, but even if it did why would it matter? Same with the clothes. Leggings are also not going to make a boy gay. Even though they are leggings, they're not feminine. Anyway, looking at him you can tell he's a boy, from his clothes and his face.

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Fiona
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