Sunday, July 27, 2014

Facebook My Dear... It's Over ♥

I have been on a go-slow all week, taking a step back from the internet having become disillusioned with it all, particularly my old buddy Facebook who has taken up multiple hours of my day ever since I signed up to the bloody thing way back in 2009. First it was good ole Farmville, a game which seemed to be top priority for every student in UCC back in the day. Looking around the Boole computer rooms it was all you could see on every screen, shame it didn't count towards any of our degrees otherwise we'd have all come out of their with First Class Honours, instead all we came out with was wasted hours of our lives, masses of digital currency we couldn't use and enormous amounts of virtual livestock, looking back now I really do wonder what all the hype was about?! These days Facebook seems to just be a boasting paradise, a place for people to say "hey look at me, how many likes can I get for this, look how great my life is compared to yours", etc, etc, filled with people who are not really your 'friends' at all and only add you so that they can get a nose at what's been going on with you since you left school, a place where I feel I have to update people about what's going on in my very mundane and uneventful life, nothing has happened! No wonder on Jeremy Kyle (yes, yes I have been known to pop it on just to get confirmation that my life is a little better then those featured, I needed a pick-me-up okay?!) Facebook is the number one reason for everyone's relationship going to the wayside, it's social media, without the social. 

Facebook, you even got a mention on my Bebo page. The shame.
 I've been logging on all week for my daily check-in and a tumble-weed may as well have appeared on the screen, the news is that there is no news. Facebook has all become a bit too Bebo-ish for me. What is Bebo I hear you ask, well it was Facebook before Facebook existed, a site where you could give people a daily 'luv' and befriend anyone who would have you just to say you were popular. It was filled with poser pictures, (I'm sorry to say I was one of the biggest offenders), I had two accounts, one was named 'Phenominal', I'm dying with shame! Bebo is basically what Facebook would have been like as a teenager. My timeline is now flooded with shops that sell handmade items (because the boy just had to have more handmade toys that he will never play with or love) that I simply can't resist, people looking for me to do something for them (like this picture if you really follow my updates, blah blah blah) and the blogging groups which I do enjoy being in but become overwhelmed by at times, just how many bloggers does one world need?! I'll never have time to read them all. I'm also sick of being told it's someone's birthday, someone who I then realise I have NEVER spoken to in the whole time of our Facebook friendship which makes me delete them, on their birthday, what a bitch I am. 

The other side of Facebook which has really made me all the more miserable is the fact that anyone can contact you, namely in my case, people from the past who meant so much and probably still do yet all they want is to chat to you simply because there is no one else. Oh dear Facebook, I never thought I'd say it but I hate you. I hate that when people tell me they don't have a Facebook account I'm both shocked yet envious of how strong they are to resist the temptation of you. If only we could have the wondrous times of the great Bouncy Balls addiction back. It's never coming back though is it, along with those valuable hours of my life... I'm afraid deactivation may be imminent, even if it is only for two or so hours. Why are you so hard to resist? You handsome blue fiend you.


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  1. I loved this post...it is so true. I do feel at times like deactivating my account. Its is a love hate relationship. Specially when I see al the horrible news, videos of the war. I just had enough of it.
    people in this village use fb to find out what you wore to this or that wedding and saving your pictures in their phone so they can show around. Now that is why I barely even post anything than words anymore.

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    1. I'm glad you agree Loris, it really is a love/hate relationship!

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  2. I often feel the same way and yet I can never really seem to bring myself to deactivate for good...Facebook is a like a drug, a time sucking drug. A little blue pill we choose to take each day, several doses to forget our banal existence and pretend for a while that our lives are anything but mundane. How did we get to this and become this way? I will miss your posts if you do deactivate but I hope that we will still keep in touch. Hugs! xx

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    1. Funny how everyone's comparing it to a drug addiction, why oh why is it so hard to quit! We would always keep in touch Nadia xo

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  3. I love this post. I wish I could delete it, I wish I was strong enough... but I'm not ready yet! I still like to nose over the garden fence :( xxx

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  4. I totally agree with everyting you said in this post. The only diffence is that I had Hi5 instead of bebo during my teenage time! And yes Facebook has become some sort of Hi5 in many ways.

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    1. Facebook is an adult version of all these sites but still the same really.

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  5. I feel the same way!!

    I HATE Facebook...infact this week I`ve really been thinking how it actually adds to my anxiety, as people seem to use it these days to share sad or shocking stories! ... but when I think about quitting I`m worried I'll look snotty for not wanting to talk to people, plus I'd lose my Blogs facebook page and its where I do most of my post promotion so could I really be without it?!

    Then I tell myself fine...i`ll just keep it for blog promotion....but then I get a notification pop up thyat somebody said something irritating, and I can't help but get involved in an hour long conversation that I`m not really interested in!!!!

    xxx

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    1. Oh yeah, I hate seeing those vids/pics on my timeline. I don't want to see all that, get enough of it on the news :(

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  6. I love this post ... but for me Facebook is a like a drug

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  7. I love this post, very true. I've been thinking more and more lately about leaving Facebook. I hardly use it these days, just seems to be full of people competing

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  8. I couldn't agree more, Facebook really is just a boasting paradise. I deactivated my account almost two years ago now, have never been back and never will! It's difficult at first because checking it was such a habit for me, but once you break the habit you realise you're so much better off without it. It got to the stage with me that every time I logged on I saw something that irritated me, and once it was gone it was a weight off my mind and I honestly dont miss it at all. Great post :) xx

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  9. I remember the hours I wasted on Farmville when I just had a baby!! I still feel guilty, he has autism now and I always wonder was it me. I closed my Karen Hayes account, as I had too many contacting me etc, I use Karen Ni Aodha now, and no one can find me unless I want them to, a lot happier now! I found I was reading about everybody's life and not living my own!! well done for this post

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  10. Great post!! Oh I completely agree, would love to delete my account.. in a way... I use it mainly for business purposes, but also to keep in touch with my friends and family. I have my personal account and I'm quite careful in terms of who I accept as friends. The most annoying thing for me is, as you mentioned yourself, the amount of time I end up spending on it. Then on the business side it really irritates me that you could spend a fortune on promoting your page but then it seems like only a handful of the people who have liked your page have seen your posts?!

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  11. From a blogging and marketing perspective I find it REALLY frustrating. It's so hard to penetrate past the "like this if you love your child" BS that people fall for.

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  12. I think it comes down to who you have on your friends list - I am only friends with my actual real life friends and therefore love Facebook. Things or people I don't want to see are hidden. Easy

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