For many mothers Mother's Day means being gifted with some wonderful treats, getting that much craved after lie-in and simply being appreciated for the love, care and support they have shown their child since their birth. For me Mother's Day takes a completely different spin on things. I see the day as not being all about me but celebrating the fact that I am a mother and what a cherished blessing I have in my life in the form of my little angel man Tyler Lee. I spend everyday with this little cherub, I get up with him, feed him, cloth him, wash him, I'm the one who has to handle his tantrums, calm him down when he cries, protect him from harm and you know what, I couldn't ask for a more fulfilling, rewarding and amazing role in life. Mother's Day for me is about celebrating my children, not them celebrating me, a celebration of our time together.
I don't want to be rewarded on Mother's Day by getting a gift for doing all of this for my son, a simply cuddle or kiss from him is all that I need. In fact, he's the greatest gift which was ever given to me so there's nothing else I need - even a new MAC lipstick couldn't tempt me and that's saying something! My boys and I spent a lovely day together this week in Blarney Castle and for me that was my Mother's Day treat, spending time with the two people I love most, unfortunately we won't all be together tomorrow as my fiance wants to work but I'll be in the company of my little angel man so it'll be a perfect day.
I have told Jacek not to get me any gifts but I don't think he has listened to me, he was hiding something when he came home the other evening. I don't need a gift to thank me for being Tyler Lee's mother, I want to be his mother, I don't need to be thanked and even though the sentiment is greatly appreciated and it's so lovely to be thought of I just can't justify big money being spent on Mother's Day gifts. Having said that I have bought cards for Tyler Lee's godmother, my own godmother, my mother and my grandmother, four women who have a special place in my life and I hope in Tyler Lee's someday too. I like cards, there's something quite sentimental about cards and handwritten things I think, perhaps it's the effort that goes into writing them.
I'll look forward to the day when Tyler Lee does little things off his own back to show me how much he loves me, like holding my hand, drawing me a picture and sharing his bar of chocolate with me - he will won't he?! Already in his early toddler stage he shows me his love by putting his forehead next to mine and saying "awwww", he cuddles into my shoulder and puts his hand on my cheek - this is what Mother's Day is about, the affectionate, amusing, amazing, sometimes pain in the bum children who make you the mother you are, no gift will add or take away from the fact that they are the most special presence you will ever have in your life.
Happy Mother's Day everyone with those little blessings that make you the mother you are!